There are no toxic jobs

Monday evening after work, I had the pleasure of being part of an audience watching a screening of The Cleaners. It was primarily about content moderators who work for social media sites and the nature of their job. They sieve through content uploaded by social media users across the world and their task is to delete or ignore a post or photo or video that does not meet the particular social media community guidelines.

At first, I thought, such a cool job. I determine which posts stay uploaded and which ones are taken down. In retrospect, that job would be a menace! I do not spend that much time on social media and constantly seeing other people’s thoughts and engaging in other people’s content will not help me reach deep within and create. Also, I have days that I disengage so what will happen then. Probably why my solution to the toxicity of this job would be to have the content moderators work one day and take the next off. This will mean they get ample time to disengage from what they see on a daily.

There was a robust discussion following this screening that made me miss my school years. People with differing opinions on whether this particular job was toxic or not. It opened up to the root problem which is the content people upload on their phones. This reminded me of a recent tweet by Nkatha which raised a hullabaloo. I think she innocently tweeted about how an intern in their law firm was sent to run an errand within Nairobi CBD and the intern used an uber.

On first reading I got how that struck her as appalling. Back in the day when I started this blog, I was an intern and we covered most of the distance walking, if need be we would be given bus fare. I remember being given uber fare once but that was more an exception than the rule. In my reading of Nkatha’s tweet, I Imagined the place the intern was sent around the vicinity. Sides were taken, and the people who shared my line of thought confirmed that within the Nairobi Central Business District it would take one longer to use an uber than walk on foot.

The tweet did not reveal whether the intern was sent with documents that hindered their movement or made it more reasonable to use a car. I remember my colleague and I using the trolley guys to help us ferry the documents we had and they go so fast! Luckily my colleague would keep up with their pace and I would catch up with them.

this is what we used; image sourced from google

Nkatha was muddled with tweets stating how she is a toxic senior for posting that about her intern and they attributed all other evils to her. I imagined how distraught she must have been reading those spiteful comments from people who do not know her in person but went to the extent of looking up her workplace, school history and getting her image. To make it worse it continued the next day and it still comes up in reference to toxicity. Yaani on average 3 people interact with your tweet then one day as you are tweeting with just your audience of 3 in mind it blows up to the unforgiving Kenyans on Twitter (KOT) and that is your end.

I consider the following when determining a toxic work environment:
1. lack of boundaries when it comes to employee breaks
2. An understaffed department that over works employees instead of recruiting
3.How seniors in the team handle mistakes committed by juniors who are new in the team
4. General interaction amongst employees

I had an interview earlier this week and boy do I think I have grown since interviewing for my first job. I was more timid then thinking if a particular organization does not want me I will not find one that does. I thought not getting a call back after an interview reflected a lack on my part. Now I understand that interviews are two way, they get to see whether I fit in their organization and I get to determine whether I will conform to their organization or find one that already accomodates me.

I do recognize that having supportive parents allows me to have my basic needs met in the absence of a job. I have also known how much getting a job that I am constantly trying to conform to just to provide my basic needs is harmful in the long run. These effects may take a long while to dissipate if I notice before making them the new normal. Frankly, between healing my inner child and adding onto work related trauma I would rather handle the former and avoid the latter.

The content moderators in the film tried having their concerns addressed and they were reminded of their bad economic position and the supervisor without micing words said you signed a contract shut up and work. A man in the audience saw no wrong in that comment. He told us that there are no toxic jobs. The film creators set out to appeal to people’s emotions; from the background music selected, to constant potrayal of poor neighbourhoods insinuating that as the lives the moderators led. He boldly informed the audience that content moderators are well renumerated and they knew what they were getting themselves into.

The audience became charged from that comment and many hands shot up in a bid to bring the context closer home and explain to him how individual circumstances vary. Notwithstanding the content of the employment contract, some people’s troubles deprive them bargaining power and thus the law should create an even playing field for such disadvantaged people. Tech Bros in the room were cautioned not to create the world’s biggest problem while trying to make the biggest pay cheque from their innovations.

What’s your take, are there toxic jobs?

Grown up dreams

Grown ups dream too. Why do we limit wishful thinking to kids? An adult is rarely asked what do you want to be? I know they do ask in interviews where you see yourself in five years but this is more to see whether you are aligned to the company’s vision. Do not mistake this for an invitation to build castles in the air. The answers expected are more towards career progression, the value addition to both the company and yourself so that you can be considered an asset they would be desirous to acquire and fully exploit for those 5 years as your unspoken true goals continually take a back seat.

Would anyone willingly work if they had an alternative means of survival? Yes but I bet it would be in a much relaxed setup either in terms of time given or the days they report to work. In Nairobi most people work to earn enough for taxes and rent. The other basic needs i.e food and clothing are luxuries. Tala and debts at mama mboga are how people go by.

The middle class form of relaxing is watching influencers show them parts of their town they cannot access. Back in the day, people used to pay each other a visit during the weekends and that sufficed as good as a vacation at Bora bora. ( Check out Dave mani’s Youtube channel and instagram handle) It took a Canadian moving to Kenya to give us proper access to the insides of Villa Rosa a place majority of Nairobians have passed by severally.

It is becoming more difficult to do those home visits. Most families are already struggling and it would be inconsiderate to add them another mouth to feed. Moreover, do you have the package? In Kenya, the unwritten rule when visiting people’s homes is to carry the essential shopping consisting of sugar, tea leaves, milk and bread ( wheat flour and rice) if you can afford. When you do the math, one would rather reach for their phone and top up 100ksh credit and hopefully you get a storo bonus while at it to catch up with the people you cannot afford to visit.

The other day amidst all the studying I asked myself, why am I really working hard? to get a good job was the answer.

Then what next? so I can afford all the things I like in life and never worry about finances.

Is there another way to achieve the things you like in life?

Yeah, if only I was a fitness model. I would finally go to the gym because my job depends on it. Then I ( insert my photographer) would take lots of cute pictures for the gram because miraculously I would become photogenic and he/she would know the right filters to use. My followers would rapidly increase then I would become a brand influencer and get all those high end athleisure products I am working hard to get a well paying job so that I can afford. The icing on the cake would be all the unhealthy foods I would be able to eat without any evidence left on my body.

what next?

I would diversify my brand, get on any business that deals with the human body. I would get luxury perfumes, watches, body butter, face masks, spa treatments, jewellery, wigs , celebrity influencer status and meetings on the right table. I would pose nude for an artist somewhere and get the image sculpted and replicated all over the world as dummies for the athleisure products I advertise. Maybe then I would freely walk in the high fashion impractical clothing because I will be living in the right cities where I would not be worried about being groped or assaulted and with the whole team working behind me, I would be safe from predators at all times.

The best part about it, I would be free to explore all the other things I like. I would read more books, I would take courses just for the sake and not because my future depends on it, I would travel, I would learn about different cultures and cuisines, I would do all activities under the sun; paragliding, skiing, surfing you name it. I would afford to live in different cities every so often and I would rent and own apartments with the best views and amenities.

I would start a foundation that enables people do what they love with the guarantee that you have a place to stay and the more things you try the higher your allowance and once you find what you are good at, you perfect it and teach others and learn more. The foundation would have apartments in different cities, an establishment like Qwetu but for the fun and spirited people.

Because we are in the middle of a pandemic and my dream is taking effect in this context, I would just pull a Dave Mani on y’all. I would take staycations in the lovely hotels that are now operating on reduced rates to keep their lights on. I would go to the desert in Malindi, Hike Mt Kenya, take a balloon ride across the Mara, swim in Ngare Ndare as I await the dolphins to come sometime in September.

Nice, so what is holding you back?

The thing about me is that I dream. This is just one of them. The one that isn’t too big to scare you into thinking my senses have taken leave of me. Dreaming is really a part of me and dream big I will.

Money

We might all be slaves
Spinning the wheel of capitalism

The more you make the more your needs
The less you have the more you need

Somehow the scales are tilted and the poor always remain poor because offers are available only to those who spend more.

Somehow the rich are enabled to save, somehow the rich are rewarded for their appearances with opportunity and connections in the right places.

The universe tries a balancing act though. One either has money, beauty or happiness. Those with money say it can buy happiness. Those without beauty say it is only skin deep. I wonder if anyone is truly happy because no one says much about it.

The poor claim money can’t buy happiness but how would they know? Maybe it is because the rich do not portray nuanced happiness.

Have a little heaven down here while experiencing life with a big spoon

Image result for different sized spoon images

I am not counting but we are just about to start hearing about new year resolutions. Late last year I decided to be making mine later in the year around this time so that I have a head-start preparing how I will accomplish them. Fortunately since then, I have always accomplished my year’s bucket list and in some occasions surpassed what I thought was too early to dream of achieving. This coming year, I would like to challenge you to dream big, live large and simply have your little heaven down here .

In this harsh economic times I know this is the last thing on your mind.I hope after my last full stop you will see the need to make it a priority. This year has been awakening for me in different areas of my life. I have come to acknowledge that life will always be complicated, money will always be scarce but we need to make the little we have stretch further.

I came across a quote which befits this space. It stated: the emergency that always gets you in the end is the one you didn’t prepare for. So let’s face it, there is always gonna be another mountain and we’ll always want to make it move( The Climb-Miley Cyrus) and while trying to make it move, we can use some equipment. This equipment is the bigger spoon.

Often we’ve read that the grass is greener where you water it. This big spoon is the sprinkler. Whether kwa ground vitu ni different, it doesn’t hurt to have a little heaven down here. There are some experiences you hear of and marvel at how large people are living this life when will we get to hear about yours? Good thing is, you do not have to break the bank or be part of NYS 4 to have your experience.

Hosea 4: 6 tells us, my people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. I have been a victim countless times.

Ask!

Seek!

Research!

let this year be the end of your destruction. More so because most answers are within our reach by the click of a button. Kenya has so much to offer that we Kenyans have not realized. For instance, do you know that there is a Bear in Kenya? Yes you read it right, a grown Bear! Now that you know, research to find out where this Bear is located and plan to make a visit sooner rather than later before it becomes extinct like Sudan the white Rhino.

Not once, not twice have I been in a gathering whose audience is mostly whites right here in Kenya and I ask myself why don’t we kenyans show up for such as I believe there are a majority who would enjoy the experience. Later, I get the answer to my question which is always, I did not know about it. Fine, there are things I still do not know but i’m putting my best foot forward and my ears on the ground. Even if I may not partake in each and every activity I will know about it.

Knowledge is power and the more you know, the more you realise how much you do not know. Your big spoon is YOUR big spoon; whether it is a tea spoon, a table spoon, a soup spoon it is YOURS. Don’t hate on another’s table spoon while you are still on your tea spoon perhaps for you its tea time and for the other its simply lunch, or dinner and not their tea spoon moment.

All I am trying to say in these many words is that you need to try out that new restaurant, visit that place your heart longs for, make time for your own happiness. The more we wait on people so that we can do it as friends, or have company the higher the chances we will not accomplish what we long for. I might be on my teaspoon moment but I’m hopeful that lunch is coming and then I will use a bigger spoon to experience all the marvels this life has to offer. Hopefully it will be a table for two as you will be dining along with me.

How saving coins can cost you more

Well-Traveled Money Case

Think of anything, a product or a service. In this instance, we will take books. By virtue that you are reading this, I will undertake that you are one prone to consume literary works. So for instance, you are in need of a book and you already have a title in mind . You could either: Go to a bookstore, get a soft copy online, thrift a second hand copy or borrow from a friend who owns a copy. One in 5 people would go to a book store,two among five people would not mind a soft copy. I am sure we can do the math for the remaining scenarios as obviously one in five would thrift and at least one in 5 would borrow from a friend. These choices made by the different people are inspired by several factors. Each considers the cost, the convenience,the forgone alternative and the urgency.

If I really need to get my hands on a book, the book store would be my first option. Unfortunately, it might be that time of the month my finances do not allow or generally I have other accumulated needs that rank higher in priority. Then, I would consider thrifting but as this heavily relies on luck, I may have to settle on a soft copy. The possibility of finding a friend with the book I want who is willing to lend and we actually meet for the exchange to take place is as rare as public holidays falling on a Monday or Friday.

Last month, experience had the privilege of teaching me how cheap is indeed expensive. I was so hungry at about midday after running errands in town. I had two options; either rush home and fix a quick meal that would go all the way to supper or find an affordable meal that will drown the pangs of hunger. Imagine if I faint on my way to the bus stop to get a matatu! Nitaambia nini watu? With this thought, I convinced myself to find a place to eat before the little energy I had in me lapsed.

I was drawn to this 200 shillings deal that had me served a packet of fries, one piece of chicken and 300ml soda. One bite… maybe it’s my taste buds second bite…. eeeww third bite I should have thought twice with such good a deal. The difference between 200 shillings and the 350 shillings for a proper serving of fries and two pieces of chicken is huge!!! That 150 shillings in between caters for the doubt in each bite as to what exactly you are tasting.

Traveling over the ‘long weekend’ is normally a hustle at Mololine. You are met with a queue and issuing tickets with no vehicles at sight. As usual, the fare has gone up by a hundred shillings or two. This is how I found myself at a random stage in town that had a matatu with a board on it written Nakuru Direct for 200 shillings less than what Mololine was charging. I took my seat and paid some guy who was issuing receipts at the door. Within no time the matatu was filled and off we went.

You know that smirk you have when you’ve got yourself a deal. I felt that I had not only saved time but money as well. I patted myself on the back. Little did I know the trouble that was in store for me. Of course the music was an ear sore but this was not dire as it could be remedied by plugging in earphones. However, I do not understand why people are never willing to open windows even slightly for air circulation. Yes… it was, raining and cold outside but with all windows tightly closed tsk tsk .

The weather was quite a mess. Foggy… which did not stop the driver from speeding and zigzaging on a rather straight road. The matatu I boarded had about 2 babies carried in each row of four seats. Beside me, a woman was sweating, quietly staring at the closed window. From the terrible driving to the suffocation, either could easily kill one before destination. I am normally car sick and these conditions were mercilessly constricting life out of my body. Fortunately for everyone in that matatu, I had pre-medicated for my nausea. I had actually taken the original drug and not the generic ones I usually pick for 10 shillings less because those ones would for sure not have been effective in this environment.

Being a long holiday, everyone was on the road and slow traffic was inevitable. We had approximately 1 hr of a standstill until our driver maneuvered his way out. Relieved that he knew of an alternative route, we remained calm. We later realized no other vehicle was using our route; I mean how novel could this route be? Upon inquiry, the driver declared that he had no intention of being stuck in traffic for a day and therefore had decided to take us back to Nairobi.


What madness is this!!! I literally laughed amidst the angry passengers howlings . At this rate nothing about this matatu could shock me anymore. As much as I really needed to get to my destination, I resigned to fate because all this was my doing in the name of saving 200 shillings! There and then the Mololine matatu that I should have boarded passed us and I thought, that could have been me but now I have a psycho on the wheels and beautiful pine breeze within the matatus tightly shut windows.

The passengers threatened, pleaded,and cajoled the driver till he decided to turn the vehicle around and head to the intended destination. In between, he had 3 more moments of indecision where he kept turning back. Never again!!!! I got to my destination 6 hrs later a route that takes me 2 and a half hours but with the traffic it might have taken me 3 and a half or four hours but 6 hrs just to save 200ksh!!!

Currently, I am seated on a Mololine matatu with plenty circulation of air, good music playing on the radio and I repeat no baby on board!! Even though I forgot to take my motion sickness medication, I am pretty comfortable breathing in sweet fresh air while enjoying the scenic views I missed on my way earlier and now I can take a break writing.

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